From childhood we are constantly exposed to criticism. For this reason, teaching children to differentiate constructive criticism from destructive criticism, to receive criticism and to carry it out in a positive way, will enhance that they function effectively in their social environment and that their self-esteem is not shaken before the opinions of others .
Teach children to accept criticism and develop in them the ability to make constructive criticism it is ideal to help the child be successful in their social relationships.
Many times when we receive a criticism or an assessment from another person we feel invaded, insecure and even offended. This happens exactly the same to children. Nevertheless, we must make them understand constructive criticism as an opportunity to improve, to be more effective and to create bonds of trust with the people who criticize us.
Therefore, we have to convey to children the importance of accepting negative comments or evaluations, since without a doubt they enrich and they awaken in them the interest to improve. Criticism, as long as it is constructive, can positively influence a child's personal development. Now, it is necessary that the child has developed the ability to listen to others and accept criticism to later reflect on them.
It is impossible that what we do throughout the day or that the decisions we make are well valued by all the people around us, so it is absolutely normal, and necessary, to receive criticism. This is an idea that we must instill in children so that they learn that criticism is something that occurs frequently in social interactions and so that they do not receive them as if it were the end of the world.
- Constructive criticism They are those that are done with absolute respect and in a friendly tone. The only objective that the person making the constructive criticism intends to achieve is to offer feedback to the other person so that they can do better the next time. This type of criticism is intended to help and promote a positive change in the other person, there is nothing else behind a constructive criticism so getting angry at receiving constructive criticism is inappropriate and this we must let the little ones know.
- Destructive criticism They are those that are carried out from a judgmental, disrespectful and intimidating attitude. The sole purpose of destructive criticism is to make the other person uncomfortable and / or emotionally hurt so that they feel bad about themselves. You cannot learn from them, they do not provide useful or interesting information, so they are absolutely useless other than to create a climate of tension that leads nowhere and to weaken the relationship you have with the person you are targeting. criticism is made.
Criticism is like a hammer, it can be used to build or to destroy. It all depends on how the person who is holding it uses it. For this reason, we must help children to differentiate constructive criticism from destructive criticism so that they know how to protect themselves from the latter by not allowing them to damage their vision of themselves.
"It is a great virtue of the serene man to hear everything that is censured against him, to correct what is true and not be disturbed by what is a lie."
(J.W. Von Goethe).
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