The development of autonomy is a priority in the education of children. Thanks to the improvement of their autonomy, the child will be able to carry out by himself and without the help of others those tasks that are typical of his age.
The habit of autonomy in children will allow them to be independent and it will equip them with the initiative necessary to progress in their learning and to manage satisfactorily in their relationships with others.
Learning autonomy depends on two factors:
- The child's maturational rhythm, since not all children develop in the same way or at the same time.
- The education received from their parents. This being the most important factor and a component that can be controlled.
It is important for children to independently do as many activities as they can do alone and are safe. These tasks are included in habits of autonomy that are fundamental in their education:
- Dress. The child must learn to dress and undress himself, choose what to wear, take care of his belongings, etc.
- Social life. Regarding social relationships, there are small tasks that the child can carry out in the search for independence. Habits such as knowing how to wait your turn, asking for things please, knowing how to listen, greet acquaintances, etc.
- Hygiene. From a very young age, learn to control toilet bowls. It is when the diaper leaves the key moment when the child looks independent. All activities related to personal hygiene are important, from brushing teeth, washing hands, etc.
- Eat. Knowing how to use cutlery, eating alone, respecting the rules sitting at the table, are activities that the child must learn and carry out independently as they progress in their development.
Getting the child to be autonomous is a process where parents should be a support and guide. And in which children have to feel safe to learn to make decisions. To facilitate this process we leave you some tips:
- Avoid accelerating the pace in the development of autonomy wanting him to do everything 'by himself' as soon as possible. It is counterproductive to require the child to do things without having reached the appropriate degree of maturity to perform the tasks that are asked of him.
- Avoid doing everything for them. At the other extreme, we can find overprotective parents who do not allow children to try to do tasks for which they are already prepared. They do not give them room to make mistakes or learn from their own mistakes. In conclusion, the child's need for independence must be accepted by accepting that the child has grown up and giving him his own space.
- Be communicative. Talking with children from respect and empathy is essential to teach them to be autonomous. Thanks to this, the child will have the necessary trust with the adult to express his desire to do things by himself using both verbal and gestural language.
- Give safety to the child through the establishment of limits and norms. If the child lives with clear and logical limits, it will give him the necessary security to act on his own.
- Support their achievements. The child must feel the support and interest of the adults in his environment as his abilities evolve and he successfully performs tasks independently.
- Value your effort. When the child makes mistakes and does not advance, adults must teach the little ones to tolerate their frustration and teach them that through effort and failures, they learn better.
- Offer scenarios where you can practice. Give him simple tasks of daily life that the child can carry out only by remembering the steps he has to do and gradually decrease this help as the child does not need it.
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