It is important for children to learn how far they can go in their relationship with their parents. In the development of their personality, the little ones rehearse and test these limits and will test adults on numerous occasions.
The absence of norms in the family can have negative consequences for our children. We tell you what are the real reasons why we should put limits on children.
Among all the reasons for putting limits on children, these are the most important:
1- They give security
Parents are the benchmark for children. They are the guide that teaches you what is right and what is wrong. All this happens thanks to the fact that there are rules and limits that parents use as a tool to teach them how to act in different situations. These limits mark the way for the child to follow and this gives him security. If these rules do not exist, the child may feel lost since he has no marked path to follow and in the long run this will affect his confidence in the world around him.
2- They are essential for their education
Educating children means accompanying them during their development with love and dedication to help them become balanced people. To achieve this, limits and rules are important and knowing how to say “no” in time. For many parents there is a resistance to saying no to their children and they indulge their needs and desires to achieve their happiness. This may seem positive, it is not. Therefore, saying “no” to children will be beneficial for their education. In doing so, the limits and rules will be set that will make the child more emotionally capable and be happier.
3- They transmit values
By setting limits, parents mark in their children the behaviors that are correct and those that are incorrect. At first, these rules are just rules that must be complied with, but as they are put into practice, the children internalize them and learn the values behind them, such as: respect, solidarity, patience, etc.
4- It helps them to "behave well"
The limits are marking the child how to act. By following them, the child will be more likely to have good behavior and will receive more praise and this will help build high self-esteem. By achieving greater self-esteem the child will continue to perform actions considered "good" by the environment and therefore "behave well."
For all the above reasons it is why it is important that the limits are spoken, defined and agreed upon by the parents. That is to say, that the nature of the limits is to guide the children and that they avoid putting them without thinking for a moment of anger due to a bad behavior of the children.
For function limits to be consistent with the idea that parents have of what good behavior is and what they expect of their children. Therefore, each family will be responsible for defining their own limits based on what is most important to them.
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